December 4, 2024 3 a.m. Pacific Time
To the Editor: Yes, we should all try to be more empathetic and humble when talking about politics with our families at holiday gatherings and indeed throughout the year. However, it’s not always easy. (“Don’t panic this Thanksgiving. Political differences can be overcome,” Opinion, Nov. 27)
Today, one in two adults is estranged from a close relationship, according to a national poll conducted just after Election Day by my firm, Harris Poll. The main explanation for this rift is the behavior of family members, but one in five believe political differences are a direct cause.
More than half of people who have been estranged due to politics hope for some level of reconciliation. However, most people say it is unlikely they will get back together, and one in five say they definitely don’t want to get back together. Our research shows that even the death of a family member or the intervention of a relative is not enough for most people to resume contact.
So, to avoid new rifts in the family, try not to be too critical of your relatives. Just because our political leaders have become increasingly mean and downright hateful doesn’t mean we have to be the same way.
Will Johnson, Chicago
The author is the chief executive of Harris Poll.
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To the Editor: I would like to share my uplifting Thanksgiving experience.
Last week, as I was checking out at Smart and Final in West Hollywood, a young man behind me caught my attention. He said, “Excuse me, but can I pay for the groceries?”
what? why? I thanked him but said, “No, you don’t have to.” I’m 82 years old and I was wearing a hoodie and sweatshirts. I am thin. Did I look poor? Or is it weird?
He explained and insisted that he just wanted to do something nice because today was Thanksgiving. She spoke up as Checker was watching. “We should let him go.”
Before I could do anything, he put his phone on the screen and clicked the pay button. He explained that he intended to pay for the groceries of the person in front of him.
I asked his name. He’s Ryan. This unsolicited gesture of generosity and kindness is so remarkable, especially in these times of fear, division, and anger. Ryan deserves high praise and appreciation.
I would also like to thank The Times for giving me the opportunity to introduce him.
Wendy Tucker, West Hollywood
