Dear Eric: I have a friend who I have been friends with for about 10 years. We both share the opinion that Lean has left. In the past, we have shared many dinners discussing the topics of our country’s inequality and other political types. My friends constantly lament how unfair our society is.
My friend has two houses paid back, retired early and sat with lots of money. She could actually do something with her own money to help people who were physically and financially inadequately serviced, but that’s not the case. She is constantly on this soap box and I can’t take it anymore.
Standing up to her with what I saw knows that her own hypocrisy is not going to work. The last time I had one of these conversations, it made me very uncomfortable. I asked her why this talks to me about so many things and what purpose it served as we can’t solve the world’s problems. She said, “You have a good idea and maybe you have a solution.” Well, I have a good idea, and that she sells her second home, funds a university scholarship and pays drug/alcohol rehabilitation for those who want it, Providing them with things like homes, used cars, day care and more is a problem. She was able to change and improve dozens of lives on her own.
I think my solution comes like a lot of bricks, but when she has the ability to do really good things rather than actually telling really good things in this world, I feel anxious I’m tired of hearing about it. Please let us know.
– I’ll do it
Dear: I don’t understand why I can’t provide the suggestions listed here. If you’re afraid to leave as if you’re too arbitrary, frame them as suggestions, or find a charity or nonprofit organization you want to support and ask if she’ll join you please.
If you expect the solution to rise like a massive amount of bricks, you have nothing to lose. And who knows, one of those bricks may lay the foundation for more philanthropy.
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